Parents often wonder how to raise the child’s self-esteem. When we notice our child not having confidence to do something, we begin to worry that their self-esteem is low and that we need to do something about raising it. 

Is there a way to raise the child’s self-esteem? There sure is, but it is not about giving the child a compliment or showering them with praise. 

Building self-esteem is a slow process that the child goes through independently. 

Of course, there is something we can contribute. We can support them. But we cannot raise self-esteem on our child’s behalf. It is the inner work of the child forming their self-perception. However, our consistent approach and confidence in our children, will create an environment where they are free to be themselves and feel good about themselves. 

There is a difference between our child’s assessment of themselves and our own perception of their assessment.

This is another important point to consider. And so before we get concerned about how to raise the child’s self-esteem, we need to first clarify whether there is a need for that. How accurately are we interpreting what we see our child do or not do? In today’s episode, I invite you to consider a set of questions around our children’s self-esteem and the part we play.