Out of all the needs children have, the need for acceptance plays a critical role in their development. Understanding this very essential and basic need, holds the key to understanding our roles as parents.

 

 

If you were to guess the most important need children have, what would it be? What is it that the child cannot fully grow and develop without? Acceptance is the answer.

 

But if you thought “Love” you were also close. Since this word is a bit too broad in its use and meaning, it is better to focus more closely on one very important aspect of it. And that is acceptance. Acceptance is what the child truly needs in order to develop all the qualities of a strong human being who is open to learning and exploring their potential and who is not fazed by life’s challenges.

 

Acceptance and connection are the anchors for the development of Self, the inner capacity for identity and self-hood, and a healthy sense of self-esteem.

 

Our most important role in the child’s life is to help that development. We do that in many ways and by using numerous tools, but it all starts with unconditional regards and acceptance.

The sense of acceptance works like a compass, with its purpose being to guide the child towards those who care deeply, who will protect, and will not reject the child for any reason. At a very basic level, before any of this can be articulated in a more mature experience of emotions and the social context in which they may appear, the need for acceptance tells the child to stick around those who will make sure you not only survive, but blossom as an individual.

 

Tune into today’s episode for more.